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Seeds of Love: Presence

Cheri Valentine and I co-hosted the A2Zen.fm radio show “Planting Seeds of Love” on Tuesday, April 9th.  Our topic was Presence – Enrich Your Life, Deepen Your Relationships.

You can listen to the archive of the show here.

Here’s the summary of the show:

Tina and Cheri are back and bringing you more foundational seeds to grow your gardens of love.  This week learn how to increase intimacy, connection and love in your relationships with the power of presence.

Engage all your senses.  Forget the past.  Stop projecting into the future.  Just be here in this moment with your partner, (or child, friend, co-worker, date.) Be here in this moment with your experience.  Be here with your heart and mind. Open and be in the moment of love.

As you learn to embrace each moment with your full attention, you will begin to notice the moments when love presents itself to you.  You will begin to see yourself and others with new eyes of acceptance.  You will connect more deeply to the love you hold for yourself, the world, for others.

Looking Within

I am a firm believer that I am 100% responsible for my life. 6193108-a-beautiful-mature-woman-sitting-on-a-hammock-reading-a-book All the past decisions I have made in my life – both conscious and unconscious – have lead me to where I am in this exact moment in time.  My past decisions have lead me into the now!

So that being said, it is the decisions and the actions – or inactions – that you take right now that determine your future. If you want to know your future – look at what it is you are doing – or not doing – RIGHT now! (As an example, if you are spending all your income and are not saving for the future, there is a huge probability that you will have no savings in the future and also a high probability that in the future you will still be spending all your money.) 

Most people spend more time planning their annual vacation than they do planning out their whole life. It’s true!  Next time you are at a gathering with friends just ask, “What is it you want to do with your life for the next 10 years?”  What do they want to do?  What do they want to accomplish?  It’s a sad truth but most people will reply, “I want to own a house and have a couple kids and maybe go to Mexico.”  I say it’s ad because there is potential for there to be so much more!

Most people make general or broad plans and just allow life to happen to them.  Yet, the most highly successfully people dream or envision their lives right down to the color of their dream house.  They have picked out the neighborhood they want to live in and they even know the color of the carpet in their dream house.

An Olympic athlete trains and pursues their life with purpose and passion because they know their end goal. 

So, what’s the difference between the average person and a truly, highly successful person?  The difference is highly successful people spend a great deal of time “Looking Within”.

The quieter you become, the more you can hear. – Ram Dass

I can hear some of our readers now.  What’s this “CRAP” about “Looking Within?”

Let me ask you this question, “When was the last time you spent any considerable amount of time pondering/ thinking/ feeling into your future?”  By your future, I mean your dreams or your hearts truest desires?  If you are in a relationship with someone, what are your dreams as a couple?  When is the last time you talked about them?

When was the last time you put pen to paper and played the game of “this is what I want my life to look like”?

I would suggest you take a few moments every day for a couple weeks and just feel into what your dreams are.  Where do you want to be in a few years? What do you want to have accomplished?

I would further suggest you find some quiet time, where ever that fits into your day – whether that be in the morning or in the bath tub just before bed time – to ask yourself the big question:

“What do I want out of life?”

If that feels daunting, ask yourself this question instead, “What don’t I want in my life?”

Then close your eyes and picture yourself living the life of your future. You can ask yourself:

  • Do I want to travel?  Where do I want to travel to? How do I want to travel if I go?  Who do I want to go with?
  • Do I want to own my own home?  If so, what does it look like?  Where is this house?  (Urban or Rural).  Does it have a yard and if, so how big?
  • Do I want children?  If so, how many?
  • Am I healthy?  Why or why not?  Do I need to do more exercise?  If so, what exercise would I like to do?
  • Have I worked on my “Bucket List”? (A list of things to do before I kick the bucket.)
  • Have I created a will?   Have I talked about my own funeral or whatever acknowledgment of my life I’d like to have happen?
  • What do my personal finances look like?  Do I save money for the future?  Why or Why Not?
  • Do I love my current life partner?  What could I do to make my life even better with my partner? (List at least 3 things you could easily do to improve your relationship with your life partner.)
  • Have I signed my organ donor card?  Why or Why Not?
  • What “toy” or things do I want to own in the next while, if any?  (Quads, sailboats, etc)

You can make this time to visit questions you may not have thought about in a while, like:

  • What’s my vision for the planet?  Do I recycle?  Why or why not?
  • Do I believe in Global Warming or Climate Change?  What am I doing to contribute – or prevent – the problem?
  • Do I believe in God, The Universe or the Great Mystery?  Why or Why not?

There are no right or wrong answers to the above questions…  only your answers…  which might offer you some insight and direction for your life.

Ode to the Green Balloon

A poem by Woman Who Dances with Light:

The sun, who has been hiding for days, is shining.530-Metallic-Green-Balloon_l

Too nice to stay indoors, I go out for a walk.

Contemplating life, I meander the quiet side streets.

I am content, trudging along in the snow,

When the sudden sight of you stops me in my tracks.

What are you doing here? I almost ask aloud.

I gaze at you in wonder.

You are so beautiful

I want to take your picture.

How on earth did you get to be there?

You look so out of place sitting on the road.

A vibrant splash of color on a canvas of dirty white snow.

Where did you come from?

Has some little boy lost you?

Is he missing you?

You quiver slightly in the breeze

And I am struck again by your beauty.

I want to take your picture

To remember how you look in this moment.

So beautiful, so mysterious.

So out of place.

How long will you last out here?

I wonder as I reluctantly walk away.

I glance over my shoulder

And you dance a little towards me

As if you want to follow me.

I consider scooping you up

and taking you home.

But don’t.

Better to leave you right where you are.

Some other lucky soul might catch sight of you

As you skitter along the snow.

I smile and keep walking.

Transport them, as you did me,

into a place of momentary awe.

Offer them the gift of being present.

Encourage them to stop;

To be here now.

At least for one wondrous moment.


written on Nov 16, 2012